Hi Phil

 Me and mum would like to say thank u so much for today. You perfected his life story and we couldn't have written it better.


Thank you so so much. 





Hi Philip, thank you so much for orchestrating a beautiful and upbeat celebration for Dave (Woggo) yesterday. I think we captured the essence of Dave well and left the congregation with hope and aspiration on what could have been a sad and sombre occasion. From the motorcycle entourage to the shot of Jack Daniels we were able to celebrate his life and give him a final journey he would have delighted in. Thanks again.

Mick, Sally, Siobhan, Kirstin, Karen, Ellie and Tracy.



 Hi Phil

 I just wanted to thank you once again on behalf of myself and the family, for the lovely service you gave at Alec’s funeral yesterday.

We are so very grateful to you. On behalf of us all thank you once again.

With kind regards,





I just want to say thank you again for the lovely send off you gave to Doris today , everyone said how nice it was and how calm you made then feel . I for one are truly grateful that with your help and understanding we was able to pay our respects to Doris and give her the send off that she deserved.

 Kindest Regards Denise





Thank you so much for today  it went so smoothly and was very personal.

Everyone agreed that it was joyous.

No words can truly say how much it meant to myself and my children that George was given the send off he wanted.



Dear Philip

Thank you so much for officiating at the Funeral of our Mother, Stella, on Thursday. From the moment we met you on that Monday night we had every confidence you had captured the essence of our Mother and Family, and we were right. The tone was absolutely spot on and we would like to say a huge thank you for ensuring the service was both sympathetic and celebratory.

Kind regards
Julie & Brian Robinson and Gillian Jordana 



Hi Philip just a line to say thank you so much for the lovely service, everyone said how good it was. 

The wake was good, a catch up with many people we haven’t seen for years and a good send off for dad. 

Thanks again Paul and Jean. 


Hi Phil, 

Thanks once again for the way you conducted the service. It was exactly what we were looking for, and I have had many positive comments from those in attendance, all saying what a lovely service it was.


 Many thanks,





Hi Phil, just a note to say thanks from all of us for your help with the service for P King and for your talk etc. your input was really appreciated.
We all felt it went really well and the service was suitable for all the different types of people who came 
Kind regards



Hi Philip - just wanted to say a big, big thank you for all the work you put into making Roy's funeral such a success.....had so many compliments about it.....it was exactly how I wanted it to be...so pleased, it was a great relief that it all went so well.....I also want to thank you for allowing Lynne to view from France....that was special for me....and Jack..... the attention from  you and all at Tender Touch was second to none - couldn't have been better so thank you for all your hard work on our behalf...


Very best wishes for the future..... Ann....



Hi Phil, Sorry for the delay in writing to you but wanted to thank you all your help and hard work regarding my father Derek Whiting’s funeral.


From our initial conversation on the telephone, you were so kind and helpful with regards to arranging dad’s funeral. Even when all my family meet up with you for the first timey you had all the time in the world to advise and help structure the funeral. You were also very patient waiting for family members to get their own thoughts over to your way past your original date.


On the day it was great to see a friendly face who was very calming and had everything under control.

On a personal level I also wanted to thank you for your support in helping me read my thoughts out about my dad. I never wanted anyone to stand up and talk about my father as if they had known him but had never meet him, you achieved this brilliantly.


After the funeral we all had such positive feed back regarding the funeral with people commenting it was the best funeral that they had ever been to along with great comments about the way that you brought everything together, with people also asking for your contact details.


Many thanks once again, Peter Whiting


Hi Philip

Just wanted to say thank you for such a great send off for mum. I know it would have been just what she wanted. Your words summed her and her life up perfectly.

Jennie and I were so pleased everything went smoothly.

Once again many thanks

Warren and Jennie




I am sure you will recall the service for Myra a few weeks ago, at Kemnal Park.  I only got round to collecting her ashes this weekend.  I want to thank you for the great job you did encapsulating the essence of who Myra was.


Perhaps the best compliment to us both is that, after I fed you the key information, you communicated it in a way that really resonated with those present and several people actually asked me if you knew her!  That is a true measure of how well you performed. 


All the best for the future.


Bryan Pearce



Phil,  Just a quick note to say that I have had contact from  several people today who all commented on how they appreciated the low key friendly serene approach you applied to the proceedings yesterday and how Fred would have approved of our collective attitude to his farewell.  I can only add my own appreciation and to thank you for your readily accepting my wishes on the kind of presentation I desired.

All the best in the future,




Hi Philip

Just a very quick note to thank you for all your help and assistance in our preparation and for taking the service yesterday. It was smooth and seamless and a great tribute to Dad. Thank you.

Kindest regards

David and the family

Hi Phil

On behalf of Daphne and the family I would like to thank you for your care and encouragement in planning mum's funeral and for the excellent service you led yesterday . Mum would definitely have approved and really enjoyed the light moments.


She was a real character .

Regards Josie



Dear Philip

Thank you very much for being the celebrant at my father’s funeral service on Monday. We are very grateful for the support and guidance you gave us throughout the process. Thanks for nudging us in the right direction when preparing our eulogies. We appreciate your professionalism in conducting the service. 


David told me that you had received concerning news about your wife’s uncle. I hope that things turn out well for him.


Kind regards

Matthew Hancock


Hi Philip,


Just wanted to drop you a quick note to thank you for doing such an excellent job on Friday at my mother's funeral. Everybody commented on what a lovely service it was and you delivered it so well. My sisters and I are really grateful for the way you have looked after us throughout the whole process. You demonstrated support and compassion throughout. 


Not sure if our paths with cross again (unless at a funeral) but we wish you all the best ! 


Best Wishes

Steve, Julie and Debra



Good Afternoon Philip,

Thank you so very much for the wonderful service you gave mum yesterday.

.Not many families have such a tightknit family love like ours.


Mum would have loved how you conducted the service, kind, considerate man you were


I know I am speaking for all the others as well.

So Thank you Philip for taking the wonderful service you gave her.

Best wishes,

Maureen Wenban




Dear Philip,

We would like to thank you for the lovely service and send off you gave to my dad, husband and grandad yesterday.

Some of dad's friends said what a lovely tribute, the humour and memories made it all very personal and caring and a good choice of songs!

We got there in the end, thank you for your patience and steering us in the right direction.

With best wishes

and take care,



Hi Phil


Bonny and I have just watched the webcast of the service that you led on the 18th for her parents Ray and Felice.

We just want to say that we are so pleased at the way that it went; there's not a single thing that we would have changed and you were simply magnificent, both in your presentation on the day and on the advice that you gave us in advance.

Thank you so very much.


As one of Ray's long-time friends said to us straight after the service, and as is said by those who hold to the Jewish faith... 'May we wish you a long life'.


Thanks you



Aid & Bonny



Dear Philip,

I just wanted to say what a nice job you did at Derek's funeral at Kemnal Park. As you will have gathered he was the world's most private man. Those of us who had the pleasure of working with him knew very little about his past and not much about his present and yet you managed to capture the man we knew. 

With thanks and best wishes

David Stanley


Hi Philip, thank you so much for conducting Dad's service this morning.

We all appreciated your professional delivery and manner in which you made the whole service feel very personal.

I've already had lots of messages of appreciation from those who watched the live broadcast.

Thanks so much.

John & family.


Dear Dan, and Philip,

I just wanted to say thank you so much for all your help with Dad’s funeral. 


 As you know, we had never planned a funeral before, and combined with Covid, this seemed extremely daunting.  However, with your help, it was so much easier than we thought, and the day went beautifully. 

Everyone who attended said that the service was just perfect – and this was only because of you both, with your attention to detail and care, and how lovely you were to deal with.

 Thank you again, so much. 

Andrea Bullman



Afternoon Phil

I just wanted to thank you so much for making Mums service such a positive occasion .

Yes it was sad but there was a balance of formality and humour that Mum would have approved of.

Happy to provide testimonial for you.

Many thanks



Thank you so much for yesterday , we've been recieving rave reviews! I have now watched the service twice i my own time - You were amazing



Wanna thank everyone there for my mum service it was just how we wanted it and u was so caring and understanding thank u



A selection from 2020


Hi Philip

 I just want to say a massive thank you for conducting my husband Martin's funeral service.  Myself and the family were very touched by the lovely words and the way you spoke about him.  There were both laughter and tears during the service.  



I have had a lot of response from other family members, colleagues and friends from both the UK and Europe, who sadly could not attend in person, but were able to watch over the internet webcast service provided and all have said how lovely and fitting the service was.

 Thank you again, please take care of yourself and others.


 Kind regards,


Alison Smith



Dear Phil


Myself and my family Just wanted to say a big THANK YOU to you for conducting the funeral of my beloved husband Pete.


As you know, your services were recommended to me by a friend, and in turn you recommended Colin at Medway Funeral directors.  I cant thank you enough for that recommendation too.


You conducted the service in a friendly and not too formal way and the reading of my memories of Pete was delivered with the humour and feeling we asked for.    At the end of the service you also helped with organising the toast to Pete, when I was not able to function properly.


In all, you guided me at every step of a process, I wasn’t sure I was able to do.  But with your help and guidance, the day was a successful tribute to my husband, which many people have remarked on since.


Thank you.





Hi Phil,

Just wanted to drop you a quick note to thank you so much for leading the service for Jean on Monday.

From the feedback we received, everyone agreed it was a fitting send-off for her, and accurately reflected both her life and character. Rachel and I are very grateful for everything you did to calmly lead us through this difficult time, and honour mum in an appropriate way.

We wish you all the best for a great Xmas, and hopefully a better 2021!



Hi Philip,

Thank you so much for 'hosting' Max's send off last Monday at Bluebell Cemetery. The warmth and fun with which you sprinkled the proceedings would I am sure have given Max a chuckle and on an otherwise sombre day it lifted the hearts of those able to come and pay their due respects. I know the family were very pleased with the way you conducted the ceremony and for my part, deepest thanks for the consideration you gave to my old and dearest friend and all who loved him.

All the best,

Geoff Manger



Dear Philip,


On the day you were a calm and reassuring presence, and ensured that, despite the number of speakers in a short time, everything ran smoothly.


Your own well chosen words for the address and committal fitted well with our intentions. We look forward to receiving a copy of your words. As you know, we are intending to produce a Celebration of the Life booklet including all the words spoken at the funeral, to be sent to relatives and friends. Would you be happy for your words to be included in this?  Thank you again for enabling us to create a beautiful celebration of a long life well lived. 


With best wishes,


John, Helen and Danny


We wish to thank you for all your help in making our mother's funeral go well.


From the first time I phoned you I felt assured that you understood the way in which we wanted to celebrate her life. By patient and attentive listening and tactful suggestions you enabled us to bring together our different ideas to create a clear plan.


Dear Phil,

Thank you for a wonderful service today if you can describe a funeral like that, but I thought it was. I think Mum would have been very impressed with her send off.

Every body said how lovely it was and how you captured mum so well, which you certainly did.

I hadn’t told anyone about the roses but Sam and Matt, although upset, said it was in a very good way, so thank you for the suggestion.

Your words and my song choices made it absolutely perfect for Mum.

Many, many Thanks

Kind regards Trish.



Dear Phil,

Just wanted to say a big ‘thank you’ to you for the service you gave at my mum’s funeral this afternoon. As always, you were brilliant!!

Thank you once again Phil.

Take care.

Love Jilly. XXXX



 Good morning Philip

 We just wanted to thank you again for all of your help making Mum’s final journey go so well. Many people commented on how beautiful the service was and I feel that Mum would have been pleased with it. Hopefully I won’t need your services again for a while but would definitely contact you when I do and recommend you to anyone in our position.


Kind regards

 Lin Higgs & Jim Avis



The funeral for Robert Porteous. Matthew Uden and Spencer Baxter from W Uden and Sons are thanked in the message below.



Hi Spencer, Philip and Matthew,


I wanted to drop you all a line, on behalf of me and my sisters, and our families, to thank you for everything on Friday.


Despite the limited numbers, it was such a lovely service, with some little touches that made it so very personal to us, and which certainly made us smile. Thank you for that Philip.


Spencer, thank you for looking after us on the day, and for the care and respect you all gave to Dad on his final journey. And to Matthew, thank you for looking after him while he was with you in the Chapel of Rest.


Having Dad’s old friend and Scots Guard Dixie with us was an honour that was made even more special by his piping of Dad’s own composition.


Finally, thank you for taking the videos. We’ve been able to pass them on to the members of our family who were sad, but understanding, at not being able to come to say goodbye in person.



Heartfelt thanks,


Linda, Debbie and Diane.



Hi Philip


Now I’m in and settled - I just wanted to say a HUGE thanks to you for such a WONDERFUL service for Mum today - you made it so personal and special for her - and everyone said it was ‘so her’ !!!!


You set my mind at ease everything was going to be ok the first time I spoke to you - and today just proved it - it was perfect from start to finish - and just hope my kids find ‘a clone of you’ when it’s my turn !!!  Not for years I hope tho ??


Mum would have loved it too !!!  So thanks Philip from her - me and all the family


Stay safe

Kind regards


Jacqui Cohen



Dear Philip,


Stephen and I want to thank you for conducting such a beautiful and fitting service for Pate’s funeral and life celebration.


We both thought everything hit the right note, and your input was the icing on the cake. Your speeches were so intuitive, it’s as though you had met Pate before his passing, and he would have loved the low key and subtle way his family said their farewells. As you said, “you’ll know on the day whether you want to get up and speak”, and that of course was true. Personally, I knew I had to support Stephen with the Eulogy, and I’m SO pleased I did, hopefully Pate would be proud of us all (and obviously we have inherited Pate’s water works !).


I am also over the moon that we chose a memory tribute, not a dry eye in the house, my son Jonny summed it up by saying, “he had only ever known his Grandad as an older man, when he saw the black and white photos of the Army Cadet and Football Player, it hit home what a full and wonderful life his Grandad had led.” Thank you for persuading me (in a subtle way) to consider all options, we all thought Thames View was an absolutely perfect choice, fine weather and as they say, “the sun always shines on the righteous”.


It was such a special service, beyond all our expectations and it’s because of you that it was so memorable. We have had so many compliments from the webcast praising the content and how Harry would have loved it, so thanks again and wish you all the best in your future endeavours in helping other families say their “goodbyes”.


With Best Wishes,

Alison, Stephen and families


Dear Philip


Just a few personal words to say thank you so much for the beautiful way you conducted the service for dad yesterday.  You were so sensitive, yet thoughtful to all.  (A natural talent) up to you if you put that in ?


I felt you served us all very well and not least of all our wonderful dad.  He would of been so pleased to of known you I am sure.  As I mentioned he was quick to work out if you were genuine or not and you certainly was that.


May you continue well in all you are doing to support and navigate loved ones through both the sorrows and the joys of different types of services you offer.


My brother may well write something but I wanted to personally thank you myself as I didn't get to do that yesterday.


Every blessing and God bless,




I would just like to say a big thank you from myself and the family for the service on Friday for Andrew Richardson.  Thank you for all your help and kinds words before the service,you  made it so much easier as you are a very kind person and easy to talk to and are very understanding.  The service was really lovely.


Thank you so much





Hi Philip


Thank you again for everything you have done for mum’s funeral and all the support.  Everyone said the service was just so personal and mum.  Her sister said it bought back so many memories, C. was so interested in her life and has asked me lots of questions since and my brother just sat there nodding remembering... as it should be and my B. held it until the end and then broke her heart with me...and then J. , my mum would have approved!! 


So great you thought of mums love of fish and chips, you have to spend a good while studying the menu first!  


I feel blessed that you took my mums funeral service you made everything a lot easier along with the fantastic Udens.  I wish you and you family health and safety.  


Take care and many thanks again,


D. and Family




Hi Philip

 Just watched Martin's service online, I wanted to thank you very much for your kind words, they made my husband and I laugh and cry, typical Martin!


 We were very sad that we could not attend personally, but our hotel closed and the 420 mile round trip was too much of a risk at this time, if you get a chance please thank the guys at the crematorium for streaming the service.


 Thank you again


 Debbie, big sister to Martin x



Hi Philip


I just wanted to say a huge thank you for today.


Everybody we spoke to today had praised you, and personally, you got me through my speech.


You made a hard day a lot better.


Thank you again


Best wishes




On behalf of my family, I would like to thank Phil wholeheartedly for his role as celebrant in my Dad’s funeral. Phil’s job was a fairly complex one as, due to dementia, my mother was unable to help with details about my Dad’s life. Together with Phil, my brother and I, managed to fill in the gaps relating to my Dad’s early years. Phil made every effort to really get to know the man that my father was. He contacted my Dad’s friends independently to obtain additional stories which made the funeral more special.
Phil was reliable, organised, easily contactable and truly caring.
I would not hesitate to recommend him.
Emma Curtis


Dear Phil

On behalf of the family I am writing to express my appreciation of your sensitive and compassionate handling of Grahams Celebration of Life. You turned a jumble of random ideas into a real celebration for us.

Thank you for all your support and understanding during the process of collecting our thoughts.We were so happy with the end result,and all who attended were both moved and proud to have been a part of Grahams life.

Kind regards





Thank you ever so much for sending through the service for Pat.

Reading through the service it reminded me of how well it went and of the lovely words you, Claire and Lee delivered on the day.

Deb and I would like to thank you for the time you gave us, that was far above and beyond the call of duty.

We enjoyed meeting with you. You made the whole process so much easier, with your understanding and professionalism. The amount of time we know you spent listening to music, to make sure we had the rIght songs on the day, was appreciated by us and complemented the lovely words you wrote.

So from both of us we give you our heartfelt thanks and wish you and your family a very happy Christmas.











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